Racial & Cultural Concerns

Simple questions elicit complex responses.

You give a polite smile that betrays the discomfort that you feel.

A new acquaintance asks you, “Where do you come from?”

In that split second, you attempt to read their mind. “Is this a loaded question?”

Do they mean, “Where were you born?” Maybe they’re trying to find out, “What is your ethnicity or cultural background?” Or do they mean, “In what part of town do you live?”

Loaded questions cause varied responses.

For people of color, the question of “Where are you from?” is a loaded question.

Not only are there many possible intentions behind that question, but there are also a variety of reactions that could occur.

When you answer, you may receive an interested head nod, blank stare, or confused look. Perhaps worst of all is disgust.

We all want to know who we are and where we belong.

Throughout our lives, we learn that certain labels apply to us and some don’t.

Sadly and unjustly, many of these labels come with discrimination and stereotypes.

Discrimination and stereotypes may impact feelings of belonging and affect our identity formation.

The weight of discrimination can continuously wound us and negatively affect our health.

Healing is essential.

We can work together to examine the negative effects of systemic racism and take steps toward healing.

You can explore your cultural background and how it relates to other facets of your identity.

Then, an answer to “Where are you from?” becomes more comfortable to provide. Now, you answer – rooted in self-knowledge and pride.

Regardless of the response, you know who you are. You have the resilience to own your identity.

Be confident and grounded in who you are.

Let’s work together, so answering questions about your identity become easier.

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